Welcome to How to Forgive.

A four-week online course from January 10 - February 10, 2016.

You have likely found this site because you have something in your life that could benefit from forgiveness and you are seeking some guidance.

If so, you have come to the right place.

My name is Dara McKinley and I am the creator of, and guide for, How to Forgive.


Three years ago I was in that exact position. I suspected I could benefit from forgiveness but I had no clue how to do it. Thus began my quest.

Through research, trial and error, and my previous knowledge of Eastern spirituality, I came to synthesize a path that was not only effective, but proved radically beneficial to every aspect of my life.

Since realizing this path I've had numerous conversations with folks who feel stuck like I did. They all agree that forgiveness would be a good idea and they all feel lost with how to accomplish it.

After studying this theme deeply, I've come across dozens of thought leaders who praise the many benefits of true forgiveness, but guidance on HOW to forgive is often a foggy patchwork of varying suggestions, cognitive worksheets, "you simply just decide" directives, and religious teachings. 

Though all of these ideas work for some, I realized that a straight-up, practical, heart centered, dogma-free, forgiveness course that honors the individual and their unique journey, could be useful.

I developed what I discovered into an in-person course that I taught in the summer of 2014 and everyone experienced the profound reward of forgiveness. Afterwards I saw the need to reach a broader audience and began creating the online version.


I possess an MA in Contemplative (Buddhist) Psychology from Naropa University and have spent my adult life in the field of human services and wellness. From counseling delinquent adolescents, to a private psychotherapy practice, to leading retreats and workshops; helping others restore their health is my passion.  

This video will give you a sense of who I am:

How to Forgive is a four-week experience delivered to your inbox via a weekly instructional video, a daily accountability prompt, and support and guidance from me via email.

The weekly videos will journey you through the following content:

  • Video/Week 1: The #1 obstacle to forgiveness + the key to freedom

  • Video/Week 2: What emotions really are + how to unleash their spiritual power

  • Video/Week 3: Betrayal's source + one profound step to restoring trust 

  • Video/Week 4: Revealing regret and guilt's true meaning + course review + wrap up

The accountability prompt is a unique inspiration designed to encourage your forgiveness path and practice, delivered to your inbox daily.

Support and guidance: Forgiveness is ultimately an adventure with many potential twists, turns, stumbles, and leaps. Thus, I am available Monday, Wednesday, Friday via email, for the four weeks of the course, to help guide you through any confusing spots.



How do I know if this course is for me?

This course is for you if:

  • There is something in your life that you would like to forgive

  • You are open to new ideas and perspectives

  • You have time and space in your schedule to keep up with course videos and assignments

Does the How to Forgive process require that you reveal your betrayal story to me?

The answer is no but maybe. How to Forgive is designed to honor the path of introverts and those who prefer privacy, thus no one is required to share anything. However, if you get stuck and need my guidance, I may need some details to best guide you, so please know all How to Forgive email exchanges are confidential. 

How much time does the course take?

Though everyone's forgiveness journey is unique, on average the course requires 2-4 hours/week. Ultimately the more time and space you allow yourself during the four weeks, the more effective the course will be.

What if I don't resonate with the course material?

If after listening to the pre-course audio and watching the Session 1 video you decide the course is not for you, simply contact us within 5 days of receiving the Session 1 video (or 48 hours before receiving the Session 2 video) and you may receive a full refund.

Have another Q?

I am happy to answer it. Just email Howto4give@gmail.com or fill out the contact form below.

Learning how to forgive is one of the most profound things you will ever do in this lifetime. Forgiveness liberates.

The cost for the "How to Forgive" four-week course is $250.

Registration closes January 8th, 2016


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